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1479th -- Secrets Of Staying In Love


There are many moments in life when we take for granted the ones that we love the most. We become so used to our daily routines that we forget how difficult our life would be without our loved ones in our life. That is why we have to step back from the busyness of life and make an extra effort to spend time, take an interest and rekindle our love so that those we love may know how special they are to us. We can’t assume that our spouse or our children know that we love them. We have to make our love known. Loving thoughts are not actions, but when we put those thoughts into action that is when we will be making our love known. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to show our love and appreciation. When we simply slow down from the busyness of life so that we could spend time with our loved ones we will be creating memories of joy, laughter and love that will live on in their hearts and ours just the same. (Philippians 2:3-7) (John 13:12-15)

We have to think about how empty our life would be if we didn’t have those special people in our life. What would we do without them? How meaningful would our life be without their presence? These questions are simple to answer, but should be thought upon more often so that we don’t take our loved ones for granted and so that we can recognize now how important they are and how we should always make an extra effort to let them know how important they are to us. The Bible declares in Colossians 3:12-13 “God has chosen you and made you His holy people. He loves you. So you should always clothe yourselves with mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you.” (Romans 12:10) (Luke 6:31)

Be encouraged to make an extra effort to be kind, loving and attentive towards those who mean the world to you because they need to be shown and reminded that they are appreciated, thought upon and cared about. When we take the time to make our love known we will be sowing seeds that will take root and bring back to us a wonderful harvest. (2 Corinthians 9:6-9)

I hope this message inspires and challenges your heart to do your absolute best to be kind, considerate and loving towards those who enrich your life.


The results are in. I have learned that, after careful consideration and endless debate, The Perfect Man has finally been named: “Mr. Potato Head.” Let me tell you why. He's tan. He's cute. He knows the importance of accessorizing. And if he looks at another girl, you can rearrange his face.

I don't know if Mr. or Ms. Potato Head is right for you. But I'm not a big believer in the idea that we MUST find a perfect match anyway. There are plenty of happy people who are not paired with someone else. And there are also plenty who may not say they found Mr. or Ms. Right, but are living quite happily with Mr. Almost Right or Ms. Close Enough.

Marriage and long-term commitments may not be for everyone, but if you plan to be with someone a long time, can you stay in love? Does a lifetime relationship have to seem more like a life sentence? I think we're tempted to believe that real love is a myth, a long-term relationship is a marathon and romance is for kids. Are there secrets to staying in love? Over the long haul?

I believe in love and romance, and I know it can last a lifetime. I also believe there are a few simple things we can do to help our love grow over the years.

For one thing, find time to date. I don't mean time to rehash the stuff you talk about all week long. Get away and talk about things that matter. Use this as time to focus on one another, not to solve problems or to raise issues. There are other times to bring up difficult subjects.

Next, understand what delights the other and make it happen. “The romance is over,” says Marlys Huffman, “when you see a rosebush and start looking for aphids instead of picking a bouquet.” What makes him laugh? What brings her pleasure? And what can you do today to delight each other?

Also, remember why you got together in the first place. When you focus first on his faults you're not thinking about his strengths. When you're busy pointing out her imperfections, you're not enjoying those qualities that attracted you to her initially. Choose to appreciate that which first drew you together and remember it often.

And always - plan enough time for fun. And don't always plan times for fun -- be spontaneous. Laugh. Go places. Play.

A woman from Charleston, South Carolina was overheard to remark that it was her 53rd wedding anniversary. When asked if she planned a special celebration, she smiled and said softly, “When you have a nice man, it really doesn't matter.” I suspect they learned the secrets of staying in love.

By Steve Goodier

Read and meditate on these scriptures:

Galatians 6:9-10 “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.”

1 Thessalonians 5:11-14 “Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do. And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you; And to esteem them very highly in love for their work’s sake. And be at peace among yourselves. Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men.”

1 John 4:10-12 “Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us, and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and His love is perfected in us.”

1 John 3:16-18 “Hereby perceive we the love of God, because He laid down His life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.”

All of these scriptures can be found in the King James Version Bible.

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In Christ’s Service,

Dwayne Savaya
God’s Work Ministry


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